If you find yourself suffering from paruresis and have been looking for a way to cure it, then one avenue you must consider is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy For Shy Bladder.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for shy bladder (commonly referred to as CBT) is perhaps the most recognised in relation to paruresis. But its something that you should only go for under the supervision of an expert CBT therapist. It’s not the easiest to explain in simple terms but, let me give it a go! I’ll try to explain what this treatment is all about … in an understandable manner!
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy For Shy Bladder
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is linked to three things: thought, behavior and feelings. It’s similar (ish) to hypnotherapy is so far that it aims to reprogram the automatic responses of the sub-conscious mind.
It’s a “talking” treatment. In other words it involves conversing with the trained therapist about your thoughts and feelings. This can, in turn, help you to better manage and cope with psychological problems of all kinds. In this case, specifically shy bladder syndrome.
It works by changing how you think and how you react to these thoughts which will, obviously, make you feel better. CBT is all about the here and now. It’s not about looking back and getting to the root of the problem. It takes the issue as it is right now and works to change thoughts and behaviors.
I appreciate that this definition is perhaps a little confusing but basically we talking about the following:
The way you think when you walk into a public restroom and the way you act and how you feel. Right now that’s probably not a good set of actions and emotions which is why they need to change. The CBT therapist will work with you, through the power of questions and conversation, in order to change those initial thoughts when you need to pee in public places. They will then look to re-shape your natural behavior and work on the much better way you feel and the positivity.
It will help the viscous circle of negative thoughts, behavior and feelings. As you walk towards a restroom or a urinal just consider the way you currently think. Consider the way you act. How doe that make you feel? Now consider walking up there with confidence. Knowing there’s no problem and you’ll be able to pee no matter who’s around. Think about how these improved thoughts will make you behave and how good you’ll feel! Welcome to the work of cognitive behavioral therapy because that’s what it’s all about!
Does CBT For Shy Bladder Work?
CBT for paruresis is actually one of the most popular and recognised treatments for the condition around today. As Shy Bladder Syndrome has been officially categorised as a form of social anxiety and as CBT is a recognised treatment for anxiety of all types it’s obvious that it’s going to be effective.
I cannot stress enough though … you need to work with a trained therapist. Take your time to research and find the right support local to you and make sure they’re familiar with your condition before you commit to anyone.
A good starting point for those reading in the UK is the official register of Accredited BABCP CBT and AREBT therapists. This register can be accessed at www.cbtregisteruk.com
For those in the US you may want to first check out the Academy Of Cognitive Therapy. This organisation is a certifying organization for cognitive behavioral therapy. It “evaluates applicants’ knowledge and ability of applicants from all mental health fields before granting certification”.
Other CBT certification organisations exist worldwide. You may want to start with an internet search in your own location.
If you’re expecting an overnight miracle though you can forget it! It’s not a quick fix. It takes time, effort and commitment. Oh, and it may not be that cheap either … therapists have to make a living like all of us!
CBT And Graduated Exposure Therapy
I’ve discussed another popular form of treatment called Graduated Exposure Therapy. As the name of this treatment suggests, this involves exposing yourself to the difficult environment of the public toilets and building up gradually. Bit by bit you’ll become used to the anxiety experienced in relatively comfortable restrooms and build up to more difficult ones until, eventually, you can deal with any situation.
Graduated exposure therapy need to be practised regularly and the level of difficulty and discomfort built up over time. This, therefore, is certainly not for those who want a quick, comfortable result.
Whilst this is a very different treatment in itself it often goes hand in hand with cognitive behavioral therapy. Basically, it helps cement the work of the therapist and helps the “new” thoughts, behaviors and feelings bed in to your revised mindset.When practised alongside CBT it can help achieve faster results than each treatment undertaken separately.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy For Shy Bladder – To Re-Cap
A short summary of what may seem a little complicated:
- CBT is a very popular shy bladder talking treatment which works with the situation here and now.
- It is proven to be effective in respect of paruresis and all forms of anxiety.
- There are similarities but it is not the same as hypnotherapy.
- CBT aims to change negative thoughts, behaviors and patterns to positive, healthy ones.
- Graduated Exposure Therapy may often support the therapy program
- CBT should ONLY be carried out by a trained, experienced professional CBT therapist.
I’m a great believer in this form of treatment for shy bladder. One of the reasons is that your being supported and encouraged by a professional in this field. A professional who, from the point of view of reputation, wants you to succeed and will help you every step of the way.
Paruresis is little talked about and that’s often half the problem. Simply sharing and taking advice from someone who’s there to support you in a non-judgemental manner can really, really help.
Make sure you think it’s right for you. It’s going to take commitment and you’re going to have to sign up to a series of therapy sessions which may not come cheap. You should ensure that you understand what’s involved and what’s going to be expected of you and how much it’s going to cost. We suggest that you book an initial consultation to discuss the issue first … before you make any form of commitment.
CBT – Not For Everyone
Of course you may decide that you can’t afford CBT therapy or you may prefer a more private and discrete treatment which doesn’t involve you having to talk to anyone about it. There’s nothing wrong with this as any treatment has to be comfortable to you.
In my own case I preferred the DIY option too. These two programs are how I sought treatment: